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Re-Building Successful Relationships


Sure there are plenty of other fish in the sea; but you're not anywhere near the sea. You're in the desert. Alone. I am not sure how many of you feel so, but when i come back home from my office, such kind of feelings really surrounds me. There are lot reasons behind those feelings.
  • How many classmates do you remember from your 10th standard?
  • How many classmates of 10th standard you are still in touch with?
Lets us leave 10th standard because many of us thinks that 10th standard is quiet way back in the history.

  • How many classmates do you remember from your Graduation?
  • How many classmates of Graduation you are still in touch with?
Still having difficulties in remembering their names & faces, let me make it more easy.

  • How many classmates do you remember from your Post-Graduation?
  • How many classmates of Post-Graduation you are still in touch with?
Oh you still remember few of them, Great......so let me move little further........

  • How many colleagues do you remember from your First organization?
  • How many colleagues of your first company you are still in touch with?
When i asked these questions to myself, my score was very poor, this is a beautiful example that how bad i am in building relationships. There are very few people i had come across who are really good in building relationships carrying them for long & long for entire life. 
“Everyone you meet in your life - even total strangers - are already intimately connected to you. The idea that we are all separate and distinct beings is nothing but an illusion. We are all parts of a larger whole, like individual cells in a body. (…) When you look at other people, you’re really looking at yourself. “
– Steve Pavlina
 Step for Relationship Re-Building.

1.Try building a contact directory of your friends, classmates, teachers & colleagues. I am sure you if you try hard on your memory you will surely be able to remember the names of most of them. Keep listing them down.

2. If you are able to contact few of the people among the contact list, slowly & steadily you would be able to fill the remaining contacts very soon because this is a kind chain which keep on building with addition of each contacts.

3. In Today's social networking world with lot of social sites like - Facebook, Orkut, Twitter. You will be surely be able to find the remaining friends from here.

4. Be in regular touch with old relations are more important than contacting them because they will be lost again if you are not in regular touch with them.

5. Meeting them once in a while along with your family or their family really brings more strength in any relationship.

6. Sharing & exchanging the gifts among these relations build an urge to meet people & build relations. Even a greeting card on special occasion & remembering them on these special occasions really more than enough.

7. Plan together for a movie, travel or Dinner allows you & your family to get mix with each other.

8. Small SMS's jokes, wishes are also something which always make them reminding that they there is someone who still remember even if far apart.

9. Importantly you would see this will build the relationship so strong that you would find lot of people around whenever you need help or if you are in trouble.

I am surely going to try these 9 rules set by me for re-building the relationships.............How about you?????
Hey its not that tough, just give a try.....................
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Unknown said…
Hey!!!That's a Nice Blog....Gud.
In Today's fast pacing world where everyone is just thinking to win the race in today's world of competition,to be on top of the world,to make quick bucks,to becum successful overnight etc etc...the list will go on....but in all this v forget our near & dear ones...
I also didn't have contacts of many of my school mates,thanks to Orkut & Facebook that could be able re-connect with them again.
But you know many people r like that only,they don't want to talk to their family,don't have friends,i don't know how they live...Anyways i think ur blog will definitely make them to re-connect & re-build relationships.....;)
July 20, 2010 at 10:24 AM
banny said…
heeeellloooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!
nice blog i must say dats really gud nd heart touching..............
September 10, 2010 at 4:10 PM
CHHAVI said…
Hmmm..nicely written.
I'm happy to analyse myself in lieu of the thought you mentioned here and found myself so very well connected, not just with my frnds from 10th standard but even a few from primary school:)

I agree once u'r married and have family, you hardly get time for social networking but as mentioned "give a try atleast" and I'm sure we can spare few minutes for our second family i.e Friends:)

Thanks for sharing the blog link
July 19, 2012 at 2:20 PM
Devendra said…
Hi Chhavi,
I wrote this blog couple of months before my marriage as i know how difficult it is to spare time after marriage. You had reminded me of this blog which i wrote to re-connect with my friends.Will try my best to re-build those successful relationship with old friends.
July 19, 2012 at 2:40 PM
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