Skip to main content

When a father looses his self respect.............

Winters were in the verge to end & spring was going to start..........This is the time when i was living with my friends Anshu & Arnab at Lajpat Nagar, its been very tough time travelling every day from Delhi to Gurgaon & then coming back in the evening. I use to start from Delhi by 7:45am & by 9:00pm i reach back. It was a Saturday & saturdays were always good due to less traffic & chaos. I reached early that day & was sitting on my room chatting with Arnab. I got a call - it was unknown number from area code - 0120, i thought for a while, its from either Noida or Ghaziabad. I picked up the call & the person on the other side said - Namaste Son, I am JOJO's Father. JOJO is one of the live stories of my life, which turned me upside down which made Year 2007 as deadliest. Will blog the full coverage of this story separately. 
Jojo's Father voice was looking like a person who had been lost everything in a battle & was almost about to cry or may be already had cried a lot. What he had lost? he had lost her most loving daughter..........who was the proud to him.........he had always believed in her as his son rather than a daughter..........He had never given any attention to his son, who had always felt lonely-some because of her......She was naughtiest of all & knew very well about her father's mood very well....when he is happy, when he is angry, when he is good, when he is bad............Her mother was very well aware of her witty nature very well......Today JOJO's father was looking like a man who had lost his dignity, his proud, his ego............


He told me with a sad voice...........Son, i am very sorry for you, as i had failed in my life & i feel dejected, i am not able to face myself  today. I said Uncle Je what had happened? He Said - Son, i recently got a call from Jojo that she had done a court marriage with her new boyfriend at Rudrapur, Uttranchal. I knew this would happen someday, as her father was fully against this marriage......


Jojo had lot of heartbreaks in the past with previous boyfriends.......She always looked for a companion who cares him as much as she do, who loves as much as she does.......All her past relationships had failed..............
Women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partner. When a women lacks the necessary attention she is seeking from her partner, she will be tempted to grab all that love from elsewhere..........This roots in a plant called infidelity. A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or even a hobby may not gather time to spend a romantic self life with his partner, this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone in the whole wide world. So just a sneaky smile of friendship could melt them down in a stranger's arms after few or many visits. Some women complain about their loneliness even in the presence of their partner...........She had told me about this lot of times & i never understood this, may be thats the reason she tempted with a stranger who was working with her in the same company & get close to each other quickly.........


Jojo's Mother was fully aware of her intentions & she didn't had any control to stop her from doing so........May be she had been very soft to her since her childhood thats the reason, she never scolded her daughter for some reasons. Jojo's Father was very strict to kids since childhood & was ruthless,  Only Jojo was his sweet heart........


Jojo's Father told me - son, when i heard about her marriage......i was so angry that i never wanted to see her face again.......He had announced everybody in his family that her daughter is died for him.........he stopped for a while & said - Father's heart is a father's heart......May be i can never forgive her for my entire life, but as a father i don't had options keeping away from my daughter.........He said - last week myself & one of their relatives went to her in-laws at Jallandhar where she got married....He felt ashamed of himself sitting in front of her in-laws as a dejected father......As soon as Jojo saw her father there, she started crying & very soon both of them were crying heavily.........There was no way of bringing her back by breaking this marriage............He called few of there near & dear relatives, to make this marriage a formal so that nobody can raise hands on their daughter with comments that she ran away with her lover & got married without families consent................


He was very sentimental by this time & was about to cry............He said me, i wished if you were been my son-in law.....With these words he wished me best of luck & told me to forget about her & start a new innings of your life.......................


I never spoke to him again, but if i had been in his shoes i must had done same.........Its very tough being parents..............we kids never think about this, we realize when we are grown up & have kids......................



Labels:

Comments

Cath said…
Holi seems so interesting
March 13, 2010 at 7:46 PM
Anonymous said…
hi devu
this incidence is very heart touching but i had to read it twice to understand it.u may be too emotional while writing this blog,u missed some link.i may be wrong but this is what i felt.
but over all the story is very nice and educative.it gives lesson to parents as well as childrens.
nice attempt.keep it up
best of luck devu......keep going.
March 24, 2010 at 8:59 AM
Devendra said…
Dear Well Wisher,
I am a very emotional person & cant stop my emotions, which had been reflected in this real life story. This is true there is link in this story which is missing & you will see the missing links in my future blogs. The missing links are one of my emotional links & its very hard for me to write in one go.........
I am not sure if this is really eductive but yes this is pretty emotional one...
Thanks for your kind motivations.
Devu
March 24, 2010 at 11:07 AM
Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Grow Old with Someone you Love..............

My hair had gone grey, my eyes had gone weak. I am nearing onto my 70's, my old habits of late rising from sleep had changed. Now me and my wife had turned early risers. We are back from our morning walk. With a cup of tea, i am reading the newspaper headlines. Nothing much had changed politically in India all through these years. Priyanka Gandhi's son is on the verge to be the next prime minister of India, Kejriwal's son is still fighting against corruption. Lets put end to these newspaper stories here. Nikki (My Wife) is busy with her early morning Yoga session, she had turned 68 years old but still managed to looks 15 yrs younger than her age. I am gazing her my double lenses, its almost 40years of our togetherness and still it seems that we had just got married yesterday. Nikki raises her eyebrows from the corner and asks me whats in the breakfast honey? I distract myself and pretend that i had not heard her words. She speaks more louder with adding - "You...
1 comment
Read more

Sharpen the Saw...............

 Nobody starts walking with their birth............. There is a minimum period of 10-14 months after the birth human baby starts walking, even that too is not an easy path......But when babies are born one thing is inherent and gift of god which is Learning power. It starts as soon as baby comes to in their senses, they start learning from their surroundings, how to move hands, their speech therapy, their observing power. This shows how their mind is so pure and without any outer impurities so honest so true, which is why it is being said "Babies are Form of God's".  Babies start their journey from Crawling to walking which is big learning process but how quickly they learn is very surprising. Ancient India had proven this fact that whatever is being taught in early age of kids, their mind will grab it quickly. Proven example was Son of famous saint Ved Vyas whose name was 'Shuka' and he learned the entire scriptures and all four Vedas when he was not even born. T...
1 comment
Read more

Too Much Thoughts......

Why do I think so much................. This is the standard question which we all ask ourselves very often, its human tendency to think wherever we get a break to our mind. Even at times without getting a break too, mind keeps on working in the background even if you are working on something, even when we are sleeping. It always ticking and its very difficult to control it. Most of our emotions are driven by the thoughts running in the background of our mind. we feel happy if the thoughts are positive, we feel sad if our thoughts in the background are negative. Mind runs faster than the speed of the light, within a second it can think continuously and simultaneously so many thoughts. Most of the time when i drive the car, in the background my mind will start checking the emails which i read 3-4 days back and for which response is yet to be done, or it will start thinking about my parents well being if they are fine and what they would be doing or about 2-3 months ahead what is ...
2 comments
Read more