When a father looses his self respect.............

Winters were in the verge to end & spring was going to start..........This is the time when i was living with my friends Anshu & Arnab at Lajpat Nagar, its been very tough time travelling every day from Delhi to Gurgaon & then coming back in the evening. I use to start from Delhi by 7:45am & by 9:00pm i reach back. It was a Saturday & saturdays were always good due to less traffic & chaos. I reached early that day & was sitting on my room chatting with Arnab. I got a call - it was unknown number from area code - 0120, i thought for a while, its from either Noida or Ghaziabad. I picked up the call & the person on the other side said - Namaste Son, I am JOJO's Father. JOJO is one of the live stories of my life, which turned me upside down which made Year 2007 as deadliest. Will blog the full coverage of this story separately. 
Jojo's Father voice was looking like a person who had been lost everything in a battle & was almost about to cry or may be already had cried a lot. What he had lost? he had lost her most loving daughter..........who was the proud to him.........he had always believed in her as his son rather than a daughter..........He had never given any attention to his son, who had always felt lonely-some because of her......She was naughtiest of all & knew very well about her father's mood very well....when he is happy, when he is angry, when he is good, when he is bad............Her mother was very well aware of her witty nature very well......Today JOJO's father was looking like a man who had lost his dignity, his proud, his ego............


He told me with a sad voice...........Son, i am very sorry for you, as i had failed in my life & i feel dejected, i am not able to face myself  today. I said Uncle Je what had happened? He Said - Son, i recently got a call from Jojo that she had done a court marriage with her new boyfriend at Rudrapur, Uttranchal. I knew this would happen someday, as her father was fully against this marriage......

Jojo had lot of heartbreaks in the past with previous boyfriends.......She always looked for a companion who cares him as much as she do, who loves as much as she does.......All her past relationships had failed..............
Women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partner. When a women lacks the necessary attention she is seeking from her partner, she will be tempted to grab all that love from elsewhere..........This roots in a plant called infidelity. A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or even a hobby may not gather time to spend a romantic self life with his partner, this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone in the whole wide world. So just a sneaky smile of friendship could melt them down in a stranger's arms after few or many visits. Some women complain about their loneliness even in the presence of their partner...........She had told me about this lot of times & i never understood this, may be thats the reason she tempted with a stranger who was working with her in the same company & get close to each other quickly.........


Jojo's Mother was fully aware of her intentions & she didn't had any control to stop her from doing so........May be she had been very soft to her since her childhood thats the reason, she never scolded her daughter for some reasons. Jojo's Father was very strict to kids since childhood & was ruthless,  Only Jojo was his sweet heart........


Jojo's Father told me - son, when i heard about her marriage......i was so angry that i never wanted to see her face again.......He had announced everybody in his family that her daughter is died for him.........he stopped for a while & said - Father's heart is a father's heart......May be i can never forgive her for my entire life, but as a father i don't had options keeping away from my daughter.........He said - last week myself & one of their relatives went to her in-laws at Jallandhar where she got married....He felt ashamed of himself sitting in front of her in-laws as a dejected father......As soon as Jojo saw her father there, she started crying & very soon both of them were crying heavily.........There was no way of bringing her back by breaking this marriage............He called few of there near & dear relatives, to make this marriage a formal so that nobody can raise hands on their daughter with comments that she ran away with her lover & got married without families consent................


He was very sentimental by this time & was about to cry............He said me, i wished if you were been my son-in law.....With these words he wished me best of luck & told me to forget about her & start a new innings of your life.......................


I never spoke to him again, but if i had been in his shoes i must had done same.........Its very tough being parents..............we kids never think about this, we realize when we are grown up & have kids......................