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Sorry.............Is it hard to say it???

There had been lot of occasion in the past where i found difficult to apologize my friends for my mistakes, realizing the mistake is fine but saying the same to your friends is very difficult, because ego comes in-between. I lost couple of good friends for all such reasons. Recently i had a chat fight with one of my close friend & i gave a thought on our fight, i realized that i was wrong & during fight i blamed my friend with all nuisance. Blaming is never good for any relationship, if you are doing so..........you are breaking the trust of your friend & after this your friend will lose the confidence in you  &will try to avoid talking. 
Good Relationships are like  adhesives, it increases the cohesiveness & bonding. It really require extra care to ensure that this bonding last long...................................
Here i went through following questions after i realized my mistake:

  • Why apologizing is so important?
  • What to do before you apologize?
  • What to include in apology?
  • What to do after you apologize?
  • When to apologize?
It's difficult for most people to admit they made a mistake. We all want to believe we’re great people, but admitting to a mistake is an acknowledgement of our own human fallibility. It’s especially hard for people to admit to a mistake if they think the other person will use that admission against them in the future. They may fear that the other person won't accept the apology, or will react with a lot of anger when approached with an apology. Most people dislike confrontation, so they do nothing and hope things will blow over with time. Unfortunately, that approach doesn't restore trust or strengthen relationships, and it can do real damage if it happens often enough. People who have made an effective apology and have seen the benefits realize that apologizing isn't as hard as it seems and is well worth the effort.

Politicians frequently make the mistake of playing what I call the "if/any game," as in "if my actions offended anybody, then I apologize." That kind of apology is rarely effective, because the politician hasn't actually admitted to the error and taken responsibility for it. 

Without having done any statistical research on this, I suspect that women apologize more frequently than men, and they may be a little better at it. Apologizing is an important but "soft" social skill, and women often excel in those areas. It may also be a little more difficult for men to admit to error, especially if they've been raised not to do so.

Dear Friend,

What I did is beyond all belief of anyone sane, for I crossed the line of trust and left along in its wake the destruction of honesty, faith and everything else that constitutes friendship. Now I cannot even begin to hope for your forgiveness.. though I will always seek it. Believe me , I plead you , when I tell you that not an iota of my friendship was fake or forced…
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