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Social Evil.............Old....Older and Oldest .............The Big Dowry System................

 
I got an Idea to write about this subject after going through various articles on Hindustan Times and various sufferers of this social evil.

Getting back to our Education system in India, i do very well remember my school days when we use to have several debates and essay competitions on the subject of Dowry system....But question arises.....is that learning is only for earning points and grades, Where our parents or gurdians portait and help us with writing this essay or debates. Is this learning is not what is expected out of us....to get rid of this social evil.

This social evil is not new for India and is as old as our grand and grand parents.....Coming along with each generations of generations....Question arises which generation is going to put a complete full stop. In India its not been treated as social evil but as a social or relegious traditions, which at times are even linked with the Indian Gods.

At times i feel so pity that are we not even competent or capable that we have to be dependened on parents in law for the such small things like TV, Refrigerators, Washing Machine, Air conditioner, Car, Furniture and even utencils. In India at one place we consider the daughter in laws as Godess Laxmi. In fact it is saying in India that with the blessings of Godess Laxmi your house will be filled with loads of wealth and precious gifts. At another place we Indians treat our daughter in laws (who are considered as Godess Laxmi) in ill treated manner just for the sake of dowry. There are so many cases in India piled up in the courts of Stove of cylinder bursting, which is nothing but fuel of this social evil which has bursted the minds and our souls.

Other day my office collegues were discussing this subject on the lunch table and i was surprised to listen what they discussed. India we proudly own ourselves as Indian, where we have so many religions, languages, communities but suprisingly every religion and every community does follow this social evil. One of my collegues was updating us that dowry is more prominent among North Indians - specially Punjabi families where each family expect marraige as a course of business where the deal of marriage will bring lot of money, gold and other gifts to each family member.
Another collegue who is Gupta prodouly said that our community is much better in that respect, before marraige we make an agreement and discuss the budget with the girls family. If girls family agrees than only we go ahead with the marraige proposals. One of my other collegue declared that South Indians are not behind they demand everything in Gold.
 
The upcoming Generation, this is the time to bring change, this change can only be bought by you people and none other. You are independent, you are brave, you have voice.......bring that out......bring the happiness to the society by killing this social evil.........
Boys are strong and confident engough to refuse for accepting any kind of demands as Dowry.
Girls are confident and independent to take stand and refuse for any kind of demands as Dowry.





  

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